Sue Loncaric can be found at Sizzling Towards Sixty where she shares stories about aging with sizzle! The information and advice she gives will help you to move forward with enthusiasm and love being single.
In a recent post I discussed the overwhelming feeling of loss and grief with the death of a spouse/partner, a relationship breakdown and divorce. I wrote about taking time to go through the process until you are ready to accept and move on.
Now that you are feeling stronger it is time to get back out into the world and live your life. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you are lonely, but we all need to connect with others.
That doesn’t mean you need to fill every waking moment doing things with other people or doing anything at all.
Taking time to relax and restore your body and mind is just as important as catching up with friends and family.
Being alone can also teach you that you are capable of actually enjoying being with yourself. I read a book recently, Me, Myself & I – 28 Days of Self Love, by Cheryl S. Bridges. Bridges suggested you go on a date with yourself. Take yourself to a movie or to dinner. In the past, I would not have entertained the thought of dining alone, however, as I am older now the experience is not nearly as daunting as it once was.
Seven Ways To Love Being Single:
Find your passion.
Is there something you have always dreamed of doing but haven’t because it didn’t fit into your life plan? Now is the time to explore your passion and work towards making your dream a reality.
Buy a beautiful notebook and pen and write a list of all that you would like to do. It doesn’t matter how big the dream is or how small the desire is, write it down. If you don’t dream big nothing will ever happen.
Make a date night with yourself.
Do something just for you – take yourself to a movie, an exhibition, the museum, dinner. Anywhere that tickles your fancy. Plan each week to have one night or day to spend with yourself.
Join a social group.
Do you have a hobby? Dancing, art, pottery, running, yoga? There are many groups you can join for social interaction so explore your opportunities in your area.
Find some online groups.
I’ve made many friends through Facebook groups. Just take care and research the group before diving in, but there are many groups out there worth looking into.
Did life experiences prevent you from completing your education or is there something you always wanted to study? I know that I have been trying (badly) to learn Italian. Studying not only adds to your knowledge but it also keeps our brain active.
The way we study has changed and can be via a classroom situation or online. We should never stop learning and this is the perfect time. I’ve just found a great free online learning website and I’ve signed up for two courses.
Is there somewhere you have always longed to visit? Go for it! There are tours that are designed especially for solo travelers if you don’t feel comfortable taking off on your own. Or you might want to be adventurous and travel solo. The choice is yours.
Research where you would like to go, what you would like to see. Consider asking a close friend to accompany you. Be sure to set some ground rules so that you both have the best experience and off you go!
Put yourself out there.
Now, I’m not saying you need a partner to be whole. Many people live happily single lives. However, if you are looking for companionship in the future you won’t meet anyone sitting at home. Put yourself back into life and you never know what the future holds!
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