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How Your Sense of True Style Expresses Who You Are

The Importance of Style

What Is Style?

Rachel Zoe stated it best when she said, “Style is way of saying who you are without having to speak.”

This statement is paramount in defining the idea of style as being much more than what we choose to wear. Because honestly, if style was simply wrapped up in handbags, shirts and dresses, then who would we be?

“Hello, my name is (fill in your favorite clothing item).”

Of course, this is an exaggeration, but you get my point. Does it make sense to base our identity on what we wear? No, nor is it healthy to place our identities within objects.

Discover Your True Style

True Style has energy, personality, depth, spirit, and a voice. If we relegate the meaning of the word into what hangs in our closet, then what we’re left with is a one-dimensional layer, better known as style without substance; which will surely lead to a mistake in identity.

Recently, an individual left a comment on my blog which stated, “You wear clothes like they were meant for you.” I have to admit, I agree with this. Here’s why:

  • I know who I am,
  • My clothing helps in telling my story,
  • My clothing choices resonate with my spirit and lifestyle,

These three points, though they may seem simple, are often quite difficult for a person to achieve. Knowing yourself requires an in-depth understanding of what makes you tick; what inspires you; what causes you to spread your wings and soar. When you reach this level of acknowledgement, you’ll then have the ability to skillfully capture your identity with your wardrobe choices.

How to Find Your True Style

When a client reaches out to me for personal styling service, I immediately introduce them to the true meaning of style. I ask them to determine what it is they want to achieve.

Do they want to discover their style, or are they simply in need of assistance with their wardrobe?

The latter is much easier to accomplish. Sure, I can help you get dressed! But to begin the process of defining your style can require sifting through the rubble with a fine-tooth comb. However, once the excavation process has been completed, what will be revealed is someone who has the ability to masterfully express their true identity – spirit, mind, body, and yes, wardrobe.

When we recognize fashion icons from our history, such as Audrey Hepburn, Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, and Michelle Obama, sure, we recall their sartorial choices, but we also remember their incredible stories! The heartaches, accomplishments, their authenticity, their uniqueness. We see their substance. Identities built upon substance are far more memorable than identities based on a person’s accouterments. Take away the color, the jewels, the designer labels – who remains?

Stay True, Glenda

Glenda K. Harrison is the author of True Style: A Look Beyond the Surface – Available on Amazon and CreateSpace eStore.

Glenda K. Harrison

From the runway to your personal closet, be it advice on the proper attire, or suggestions on how to live life to the fullest, readers throughout the world are being inspired by connecting to “So What to Twenty”, a style blog by creator, author, and freelance style contributor, Glenda K. Harrison, graduate of the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising with a degree in Marketing and Merchandising. Although fashion and style are important to her, Harrison's real passion is reminding others of the importance of self-love and using one's God-given gifts and talents. Her blog inspires readers to view fashion as an all-encompassing vehicle and encourages women to explore their personal gifts, style, power, and, most importantly, inner beauty. Harrison has been quoted saying, "I view my clothing as the cast of characters in my life, and together we tell the story of Glenda." The death of her mother spurred Harrison to launch A Daughter's Heart in 2008, a cancer support service that partnered with hospitals to provide love and support to women undergoing cancer treatment. She put aside that work to focus on her lifelong dream of touching lives through her writing and her passionate point of view on the subject of style. Harrison has authored an inspirational memoir titled, A Place Called Peace, and, True Style: A Look Beyond the Surface. Both available on CreateSpace eStore and Amazon.


Friday 17th of March 2017

Often our story changes but our clothing does not reflect the change! I know when I left my very conservative corporate job I donated all my suits because they represented a role I was playing not my style of who I am. Retrofitting my wardrobe to reflect me now has taken time and a whole lot of fun!

Glenda Harrison

Saturday 18th of March 2017

Hi Haralee! I absolutely love your statement...because they represented a role I was playing not my style of who I am. You hit the nail on the head..

Denise Reed

Wednesday 15th of March 2017

My style is my story, its great how you are sharing this point of view. Love your look, it is gracious, poised, confident and you always look comfortable.

Glenda Harrison

Wednesday 15th of March 2017

Hi Denise, thank you so much for your observation. Yes, I am always comfortable. I believe this resonates because I'm relaxed in who I am.

Amy Harris

Wednesday 15th of March 2017

I totally agree that your style should tell YOUR story. It should represent who you are in the best possible way.

Glenda Harrison

Wednesday 15th of March 2017

Yes indeed, Amy. The true rules of Style :)

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