The F*#k It List

A couple of weeks ago Thom and I had lunch with a long time friend I’ll call Bob.  After a great meal our conversation turned to health and successful aging as it sometimes does for people in mid-life.  We all agreed that we were extremely fortunate to live in an area where we can observe people well into their 90’s who are vibrant, active and younger in mind and heart than many people half their age.

Next we talked about the importance of living each day as a gift, never taking a moment for granted, and fulfilling our bucket list while we were all healthy and financially able.   That’s when Bob joked that he recently had dinner with a woman in her late 80’s who had a different take on the idea.  She told him very emphatically that she was done with the idea of a bucket list—at her age she was working on her F*^t It list! And while we all laughed at the spunk of Bob’s friend, that declaration got me thinking.

Sure it’s healthy to have a bucket list containing all the goals and dreams we hope to accomplish during the remainder of our lives But maybe we also need to have a F*^k It list as well. After all, at a certain age we should be both willing and able to let go of anything that drags us down and holds us back from living a happy and content life.  So after spending a bit of time thinking about it—here are a few things I’m putting on my F*^k It list that perhaps might convince some of the rest of you to make such a list as well.

The very first thing on my F*^k It list is caring what others think about me.  Of course I’ve written about this before so it isn’t a surprise to any of my readers—but I’ve been caring about this for far too long and it’s time to just say “F*^k It!”  Of course, even as I write this I’m aware that I don’t normally use four-letter-words in my blog so writing this post with f*^k in the title (and in the text!) is quite a step for me.  But again, it’s all because I worry too much about whether you, my friends and my readers will like it.   Most of the time I find plenty of other words that work equally as well or better.  But let’s face it–sometimes f*^k is just the right word, and right now I’m giving myself permission to use it when it seems to fit the circumstance.

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