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Why You Should Be Your Own Valentine

I’ve always secretly loved Valentine’s Day. From the time I was a little kid, I loved everything about it. I loved the exchange of silly, sweet cards with action heroes, magical princesses and funny-faced animals; and I loved the little boxes of Sweet Tarts and the juicy heart-shaped suckers with messages like “Love Me” etched across them in sugar. Remember?

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As youngsters we were so open and pure in our expression… so generous in our sharing of goodwill, that  the ritual of card  and candy giving was almost like a sacred exchange between the giver and the receiver. We shared our cards and our dime store candy wildly and with abandon, and we did it for the sheer joy of sharing joy, of expressing love.

But as we grew older, it all got more complicated. And Valentine’s Day became serious, commercial, maybe even a little manipulative. But I still loved it; I loved it even when I was no longer married and without a steady relationship. I still went to work with grade school valentines and candy hearts and handed them out to coworkers feeling the same silly surge I felt as a kid.

I know Valentine’s Day can be hard on some people who are not in romantic relationships. And I am fortunate myself now to have a man in my life who regularly brings me a fresh-cut flower from our courtyard with my morning coffee, who understands that romance and expressions of love are necessary to keep the fires of my heart stoked. And he also understands Valentine Day, as commercial as it is, is a good day to bring me dark chocolate, or bird of paradise flowers–not because it is expected–but because it is appreciated.

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Lisa Garon Froman

Lisa Froman is a writer, poet and communications professional based in Baton Rouge, La. Lisa has worked for nearly 30 years in the communications industry, primarily in advertising and corporate communications. She is the author of Tao Flashes, A Woman's Way to Navigating the Midlife Journey with Integrity, Harmony and Grace. It's an inspirational book loosely modeled on the teachings and wisdom of the Tao Te Ching, an ancient Chinese classic written more than 2,500 years ago. Lisa took the wisdom of the Tao Te Ching and interpreted it from the viewpoint of a midlife woman to create an inspirational book filled with reflections on authenticity, integrity and grace, and affirmations to support midlife women. Her blog, Tao Flashes, focuses on spiritual and inspirational topics and people.

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