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The Turning Points in Our Lives

Much has been said about the “turning points” in our lives.  Events that occur because of something that has happened or someone we have met.

When you think about them, it’s like trying to walk through a maze.

How do we recognize our so-called “turning points”?

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The other day as I cruised around channels on my television, I came across Jennifer Lopez’s so-called story and the people they were interviewing kept on talking about her “turning points.”  Supposedly she had been able to contact Tommy Mottola because of the Selena movie, and because of knowing Tommy she got to know Marc Anthony, and then was connected to Puff Daddy (P Diddy), and because of that she got to know Benny Medina….and so and so and so,  the rest is history.  This Puerto Rican girl became a super star, despite what her mama thought.  NO kidding?

The bottom line is thatall those moments in her life were very important because if none of them had happened as they did, she wouldn’t be who she is today.  Get the idea here?????

What probably would have happened is her mom would have made her stay in school, and today she would be a music teacher or something like that, still living in the Bronx and working at a nearby school just like her mama.

This sounds familiar to me.

Do you think these so-called “turning points” really exist?  Or are they simply opportunities that arise when someone is in the right spot at the right time?

After giving it some thought, I came to the conclusion that our turning points are sometimes difficult to recognize,  and we don’t want to leave our comfort zones to face them.  They become challenges because in order to take advantage of them we often have to change our ways, and that’s something almost none of us are willing to do.

Being a History-English major I would often daydream about the lives of people who lived long before me.  My textbooks would give me some details about them and I would complete the picture using my over active imagination.

For instance, I’ve thought many times about what possibly would go on Emily Dickinson’s head when she was writing such beautiful poetry without ever going out and wondering into nature.  Her poems were filled of vivid imagery that  would make you think that the author had experienced it first hand.

What about people who marked the world, making a difference?  What were their turning points?

Some of their stories are told in books, but others remain buried with them forever.

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The beauty of this is that all of us have and will continue to face “turning points.”  The important thing here is to be able to recognize the potential they carry and be able to face the challenges they bring with them.

It’s all about grasping the opportunity and making something out of it.

If something or someone gets you out of your comfort zone, take a second look because that, my friend, can be your next turning point and you may pass on it without even knowing.  

Read more from Maritza Martinez on her blog, Believing

Maritza Martinez

I'm a stay at home English teacher, mother of four (one daughter and three boys) and have been happily married to my high school sweetheart for over twenty-seven years. I love to read, write and garden. I strive to always be learning new things, and to reflect on life with its ups and downs. Books have always been my best friends and helped me overcome a very difficult childhood. I owe this to a great teacher who taught me to love books and vegetables and inspired me to become a teacher. I struggle with a chronic illness (Myasthenia Gravis) everyday, but I don't let it take control of who I am. I take life at a slower pace and am enjoying every minute of it.

Joan Stommen

Wednesday 20th of November 2013

I am in the middle of a big turning point......trying to find my way after my husband's death......and grasping here and there for something to find that is Me. Your post is inspiring and so true. I tell my grkids to watch for I can show them how. Thank you for your thoughts and beautiful images! Joan


Thursday 21st of November 2013

Thanks Joan for reading and sharing a comment. I'm really sorry about your loss, life is hard as it is when we've reached midlife because we have so many choices out there, for me it would be scary to face life alone. If you were close I would probably hug you (don't forget I'm Hispanic and we are very physical), so instead I'll give you a cyber hug and send warm wishes of comfort your way.

About your turning points, just embrace them and you'll find your way around.

Blessings, Maritza

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