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My Surprising Gift From Blogging

December 17th.  The date my official blogging began. Two years ago.

I have tweeted and pinned. Embedded and pluggedin.  Discovered an addiction to the word “just.”

My husband thinks my laptop is superglued to my thighs. My dog has become accustomed to my padding past his bed at 5:00 am. If he joins me, belatedly, his gaze reflects the same question. “Why are we getting up when it’s still dark?”.

I can’t count the number of people I have connected with. Wonderful supportive bloggers. Old friends. Absolute strangers who have commented or written to me about their lives. Their problems. I feel very honored.

My Surprising Gift from Blogging

Now we are at the holidays. A time when presents are wrapped and await our delight.

Yet I have received an early present. A totally unforeseen gift. From blogging.

I should have known. I give patients the assignment to journal all the time. Tell them it will help clarify their thoughts and feelings. Decrease obsessive thoughts that are keeping them stuck. Honor their own being and make important connections in their understanding of life. Of themselves.

Well, guess what? That has happened. To me.

One of the most valuable things about blogging – for me personally –  is that I am peeling away my own protective layers. Becoming increasingly aware of what I believe. As a direct result of writing.

I always have thought of myself as being very honest. Or at least for a long time. (After I got some chaos-making out of my system and decided to grow up).

But there’s something about writing on the Internet that is leading me to be more clear. That clarity has led to more vulnerability. My own comprehension of what I have learned has exponentially grown. Words come to me, in my everyday world, that make my point more readily.

I guess it’s like any muscle. If you use it, it will grow.

Brain workouts. Frontal lobe planks.

They are doing me good.

I find myself talking with friends about things that I might have kept to myself before. Things that I think. Things that reveal more of who I am.

Maybe I had become accustomed to listening more and talking less. Result of being a therapist I guess.

I read others’ writing that I admire. Now I can more greatly appreciate the beauty of their words. The courage it takes to write with frankness. The art of turning a phrase or innately knowing how to help people laugh.

I hope to learn more.

Perhaps you have received a similar gift. I hope so.

Aren’t the very best gifts the unexpected ones?

I am treasuring mine.

To my fellow travelers on Midlife Boulevard, I hope your holiday season is meaningful and content. Thank you for giving me the gifts you already have.

midlifeboulevard.com, midlife, columnist, blogger

Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Dr. Margaret Rutherford has been in practice in Fayetteville, Arkansas for over 20 years. She began blogging in 2012 with the website “NestAche”, and following with http://DrMargaretRutherford.com in April 2014. Her work can be found here on Midlife Boulevard, as well as the Huffington Post, Boomeon, WeWantMore, BetterAfter50 and Arkansas Women Bloggers.

Suzanne Fluhr

Thursday 18th of December 2014

Interesting observation. I'm a recovering lawyer, so I've had an over 25 year career of speaking up for others. I've been blogging (seriously) for over two years and I have met a new community of friends through my blog and their writings. I am a travel blogger, so I've had the opportunity actually to meet other bloggers IRL (in real life) which has enhanced my travel experiences. This process has resulted in my "speaking" on my own behalf more than I ever thought I would when I envisioned my blog as a "nothing but the facts" travel blog . My most popular blog posts are those in which I've shared the most. Happy holidays and write on!

Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Saturday 20th of December 2014

Isn't that amazing Suzanne? How the process of blogging can give you the inspiration and the courage to be yourself. And share that self with others. Thanks so much for your story.

The Park Wife

Wednesday 17th of December 2014

And, we are all better for having you and your writing in our worlds. Happy 2nd Blogoversary, keep going friend.

Margaret Rutherford

Wednesday 17th of December 2014

Thank you so much Stephanie. What generous words. I very much appreciate you, your work with Arkansas Women Bloggers and all of the other groups where I have learned, and will continue to learn, so much.

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