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Summer Lovin’: Met a Boy, Cute as Can Be

“Find out,” I told my friend, Don, “find out what you can about that guy with the blue eyes.”

Don was the teacher of my Improvisational Comedy class. In addition, he was my contract employee, since I had hired him to teach the class for the adult learning network I ran in the mid 1990s.

One of the perks of my job was that I got to interview all the teachers and observe a 15 minute teaching demonstration of their classes. I also got to attend any class in our 64-page catalog. My areas of expertise became broad as the Great Plains and deep as its topsoil during the Great Depression.

I’d been spending my Saturday nights in the lower level of a bar where Don’s improv troupe performed. A team of 15 players rotated 5 in and out each week, and several times I’d caught this very cute 20-something guy with piercing blue eyes, a guy who didn’t always resort to the easy laughs one gets with crotch humor.

In fact, this guy proffered very literate humor. As a business major, I recognized but didn’t “get” his references to Dante and Melville, to Cervantes and Scorsese. I just knew he was smart and funny. And had gorgeous eyes.

Roger and Lori, 5 years after they met.

Roger and Lori, 5 years after they met.

Hence my request to Don.

“What, exactly, would you like me to find out for you?” asked Don.

“Just the important things,” I replied. “Find out (1) if he’s single, (2) if he’s straight, and (3)  if he’d like to meet me.”

Days later, Don called with three answers: yes, yes and yes. And that the troupe was to perform at a street festival that Saturday afternoon.

That day we had a brief hailstorm during which I subjected my sister, Tami, to witnessing a trying-on of my entire closet. I hadn’t told her why I cared so much about my appearance.

The clouds finally cleared and we headed to the festival. We found the stage (really just a blocked-off intersection) and watched the street performance, where Blue Eyes ended up playing Clint Eastwood as a kid. On his bare knees in the middle of the street. With a lit cigarette hanging out his mouth.

Don had told Blue Eyes about me. In fact, while offstage, Don pointed our way and said to him, “Remember I told you about the girl who wanted to meet you?”

“Yeah,” said my prey.

“See that girl over there?” Don said, pointing toward me. “Oh, yeaaaaah,” Blue Eyes said, appreciatively.

Don was pointing at my sister. My very BUXOM sister.

“It’s the tall woman behind her,” Don finished. “Hmmmmm,” was the response, with perhaps an equally approving head nod (I’ll never know, will I?).

We angled to meet each other after the show. After some misses, we ended up at the same burrito booth at the same time.

Extending a hand that bore a wrapped burrito, he said “Hi, Lori. Don has told me about you. I’m Roger.”

With that, our fate was sealed. 20 years ago this week.

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Lori Holden

Lori Holden blogs at Lavender Luz and can be found on Twitter @LavLuz. She lives in Denver with her husband and two tweenagers and is an aficionada of dark chocolate, red wine and good coffee. Her book, “The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole,” was written with her daughter's birth mom and is available in hard cover and Kindle formats. Lori is an award-winning speaker and writer whose work has appeared on The Huffington Postt, BlogHer and the Denver Post moms site, and in magazines like Parenting, Adoptive Families, Conceive, and Partners in Health. Find Lori on Instagram: lavenderluz

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Lori Lavender Luz

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

Dang. I should see if he's on Facebook. I've lost track of him :-(


Wednesday 30th of July 2014

What a great story on how you met. Still friends with Don?

Carol Cassara

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

Yeah, he'd have caught MY eye, too! LOL

Lori Lavender Luz

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

Lol, Carol! I'll tell him you said so and watch him blush!

Karen D. Austin

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

Single, straight and interested. That's a great start. I'm glad that everything fell into place. Cute picture of the two of you. Thanks for sharing your story. Very sweet.

Lori Lavender Luz

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

You're so kind to comment here, Karen!

Joy Weese Moll (@joyweesemoll)

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

What a terrific "how we met" story.

Lori Lavender Luz

Wednesday 30th of July 2014

Thanks, Joy. I'm partial to it :-)

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