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Were You Born A Mom Or A Rock Star? Or Both?

Carol Graham knows her calling was always to be a mom – and she rocked it! Read more from Carol on her blog, Battered Hope.

Some people are born salesmen.  Some are born rock stars. And then there are the born winners and of course…..the born losers.  I was born a mom.  This is something I realized only recently.

I have been a business woman longer than I have been a mom.  I have been self-employed since the 1970’s.  As much as I love the challenges of business; in my heart, I am a mom.

My own mother was quite ill when I was born and from a very young age I learned how to care for the sick.  I was her legs — running little errands for her when she could not.  I was her eyes – reading to her for hours when her head pain would not permit it.  I was her friend who cuddled with her to make her feel better.  When the suffering was too intense I was asked to leave the room so she could rest.  I would leave, crying.  I needed to make her better – thus my need to nurture was born.

Were You Born A Mom Or A Rock Star? Or Both?

My greatest desire when I ‘grew up’ was to be a mom so try to imagine what it was like to hear these words from three different specialists when I was in my twenties.  “I am so sorry but there is not one chance in one million that you will ever bear children.  If we don’t do a hysterectomy, you will surely die.”  By now you have figured out that I’m neither dead nor barren. My wish came true.  I’m a mom to a beautiful daughter and son.

What makes you a mom?

In addition to my own children calling me mom, a lot of other people do also.  Although I got a kick out of it when I was ‘mom’ to all my teen-aged daughter’s friends, it didn’t stop there.  People only a few years younger than me started calling me Mom.  It’s always difficult when I am in a store and hear someone call out “Mom…”  I go running to see who needs me.  It’s especially embarrassing when I reach the child before their own mother does!

Why do people call me Mom?  I don’t dress like a frumpy old lady.  I certainly don’t ‘think’ old and most of the time I act more like a kid than a grown woman. So….why am I called Mom?

Don’t know.  Don’t care.  What I do know is when someone needs to talk to someone about an intimate problem, I get a phone call.  When someone needs a shoulder to cry on, I get a phone call. When life becomes overwhelming or trauma strikes, I get a phone call.  I have learned how to listen. I know how to hug.  I cry when someone hurts and shout for joy when they win.  Isn’t this what being a mom is really about?

During the years I homeschooled my children and also ran my business from my home, I was often asked “What do you do?”  I could have responded by sharing something about my business but I loved this response instead.  “I am responsible for creating an environment of love, joy, peace, beauty and order in my home.  I am training a future citizen of America.  What do you do?”  

And as every woman who loves being a mom would tell you  — I would do ANYthing for my kids.  I would go ANYwhere to protect them.  No mom could love their children any more than I love mine. I was born a mom.

This same desire to nurture extended to dogs and over the past few decades, my husband, daughter and I have rescued numerous pets from certain death to a life where they were loved and nurtured to health.

Have you fulfilled your calling?  Were you born to be a mom or a rock star… or BOTH?


Carol Graham

Carol Graham is the author of a fast-paced award-winning memoir, Battered Hope, the blog Never Ever Give Up Hope, and a regular contributor to numerous blog sites. She has a monthly column in Book Fun Magazine and has been published in several anthologies including a best-seller. In 2015, Carol received the Woman of Impact Award from Focus on Women Magazine and Author of the Year for her memoir, Battered Hope. Carol hosts a bi-weekly talk show Never Ever Give Up Hope in which she interviews people with remarkable stories of how they conquered overwhelming obstacles and achieved success. Never Ever Give Up Hope has an international audience in over 70 countries. In addition to motivational speaking, hosting a talk show and writing, Carol is a business owner, a wife, mother, grandmother and together with her husband have rescued over 30 dogs.

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Saturday 9th of May 2015

Loved your post.. Well, I think I am a rockstar..and I was born smart :) :D

Carol Graham

Saturday 9th of May 2015

That's great Parul! Rock on! Thanks for commenting Parul.


Saturday 9th of May 2015

Lovely to read your ideas about motherhood, Carol. You certainly seem to epitomise being a mom, both to the human and canine varieties :)

Carol Graham

Saturday 9th of May 2015

I knew some one would enjoy the mom to canine ideas -- thanks Shailaja!

elly stornebrink

Saturday 9th of May 2015

Carol, you are certainly a natural mother and a rock-star one at that! ;) And not only to your children and husband, but your dogs too! :) I was a 'mother' briefly to my adopted cat who was like my baby and i loved him SOOOOOOOOOOO much! I also have at times been called 'Mom' or 'Mother' when fussing and the like over others! ;) However, I have never had the urge or instinct or inkling to be one, even though I love children. Instead, I make more of a rock star....hmm, not sure if I have pictures to show you, not here or now anyways....too bad! ;) <3

Carol Graham

Saturday 9th of May 2015

Bring n the pictures rock star Elly! You most certainly have that nurturing loving nature. Thank you for sharing here Elly

Carol Graham

Friday 8th of May 2015

HI Eydie - mom and rockstar! We need to talk! As a grandma with a couple businesses as well as just launching a new career - I bet we would have lots to share. Thank you for connecting with me.

Eydie Stumpf

Sunday 10th of May 2015

I'm sure we do, Carol. Email me anytime! Eydie :)

Diane (Blogneta)

Friday 8th of May 2015

now there are a lot of things I could say about this post, the skill of a writer, the ability to get a point across...but do you know what I really like about this post?

It says something are a good mom and more important you are damn proud of it!

Early Happy Mothers Day to you and every mom who reads this pos

P.S... still would like to see you as a rock star...wonder how you would look and what song would you there my friend is a topic to write about lol

Carol Graham

Saturday 9th of May 2015

You rock Diane!

Well some days I don't feel so proud as a mom but then I think we all have those days, right?

I have written about my music choices -- as I told someone the other day, if I am not getting a back massage in my car then the music isn't loud enough. I have it on full volume and wish it was louder with a heavy beat - gospel rock.

And a Happy Mother's Day to all as well

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