Now that Jennifer Connolly is officially “over the hill,” she’s finding that the grass really is greener! Read more from Jennifer on her blog.
1. I can easily let go of friendships that drain me. I no longer feel the need to tolerate poor behavior or dishonesty, just to keep a friend. I expect more from my female friendships than I did at 35. I should have had these standards back then, but I didn’t…so there you go, part of being over 50!
2. I never worry what people think I look like in my bathing suit. I simply don’t care 🙂 If I feel confident enough to put it on and step out, then I’m happy Other people’s opinion of my body or appearance is fading faster than my firm chin line. I’m comfortable in my own skin…even though it seems to be stretching in interesting spots. I’ve come to terms with my body, my age, my looks.
3. I’m learning that I no longer need to always win. It’s OK to come in second, third or tied for last. That doesn’t mean I’ve given up, it simply means I’m comfortable with my performance level and am able to surrender. Of course, I don’t run marathons…that would be different.
4. I’ve given up tolerating uncomfortable shoes, just for the sake of fashion. It’s not worth the pain and frankly, I’ve found plenty of good-looking comfort shoes that don’t look like a gnome would wear them.
5. I’m comfortable sharing my struggles and discussing my challenges. I don’t always do it here, because I respect other’s privacy… and they may not want their troubles on the net.
6. I’m getting better at catching my inner-dialogue and changing her direction when she’s being overly critical of me. Just who does “she” think she is…talking about me like that?
7. I’m more confident of my opinion. I have always been a bit of a know-it-all, but now I have more conviction behind it. It’s OK if I’m perceived as stuck in my ways…they work for me and life is too short to go along for the ride and follow the crowd.
8. I have more compassion than I did in my youth. I’ve been there, made those mistakes (usually several times… just to be sure) and realize life is more enjoyable when people are kind. If someone flips me the bird on the highway, I smile and wave at them like a looney bird. (I don’t know who has a pistol under their front seat… and don’t care to find out).
9. I trust and listen to my intuition more. It’s proven over the years to be pretty accurate, and I never toss wisdom.
10. Grandchildren…plain and simply the best!
Saturday 28th of November 2015
Hi jennifer, hope you're well! Great post!
I love pretty much everything about being over 50. (except I feel bad about my neck) I don't try and be friends with everyone. I put down my foot about carpooling (the bane of my life) and I've accepted those floaty boho styles (which I love!) really do not suit me and neither do short skirts.
Monday 30th of November 2015
It is the best Jody! I never looked good in those boho things, so I'm safe there. If we have to try too hard for a friendship, it's not a friendship, it's hero worship :)
Monday 21st of September 2015
I have to agree with all of these!
lisa thomson-the great escape
Sunday 20th of September 2015
Love this list, Jennifer. I especially love #1!
Sunday 12th of July 2015
Been there done that too Brenda! Yuck is right.
Saturday 11th of July 2015
If only I'd had this wisdom when I was younger, especially dropping friends. I can think of one in particular, I felt obliged to have lunch with. Ugh! That was painful. Brenda