Carolann Iadarola isn’t sure she agrees with the fact that women’s nipples need to be covered. How do you feel about it? Read more from Carolann on her blog, Sassy Townhouse Living.
OK, you are asking yourself, is she kidding with this topic? Nope. I’m totally serious. I’m trying my best to understand why society looks upon women’s nipples as offensive. I understand the whole religious morality issue – that I get. Women were taught since early childhood that displaying your breasts openly is offensive, slutty, and down-right against societies mores. This belief system dates back thousands of years. We were taught this set of values… from men.
I know that we were taught through history to practice the value systems of the Victorian and Puritans, but they were not saints either. They dealt in their share of porn and sexual escapades, trust me. I guess what boggles my mind is how men’s nipples and breasts are perfectly acceptable to display openly and yet women’s breasts are not. It is also acceptable to display women’s breast as long as the nipple area is covered. Now, who the heck implemented these standards? They can display the “under-boob” shot, and the over-boob, but God forbid that nipple area shows!
We are constantly seeing nip-slips, primarily from celebrities who, I believe, do this on purpose. I’m not saying I’m going to run around topless – I just want to understand why women have a different set of rules. I can’t seem to wrap my head around the fact that it’s ok for men, and not for women. The fashion runway has displayed women’s breasts for years now. As long as it’s done on the runway, it’s fine. Although at times, these events still manage to make the news and/or TMZ coverage.
While shopping with my sisters one day, we went to the ladies room and there was a woman there breast-feeding her child. My first though was oh boy, do I really need to see this? I was almost offended at having to look at this most natural act of a mother feeding her child. It was then I asked myself this question: Why are woman’s nipples so offensive? Why did I feel so uncomfortable walking in during the breast-feeding? Sometimes it seems breast-feeding in public is all anyone can talk about. I’m glad women are starting to speak up about this and doing what they were designed to do regardless of who is uncomfortable with it. I realized in that ladies room that it was the value system ingrained in us all – always cover your breasts. Bare-breasted women are treated as a slutty and pornographic.
I do believe this will never change. Yes, we have become a more openly accepting society and do “tolerate” more women displaying their breasts, but I think that at their core, men will always view women who display their breasts as sluts, porn stars, or somehow starving for attention.
Bottom line, I don’t like that men have a different set of sexual standards than women.
Is it a good thing, keeping this value system? You tell me. I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject.