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Loving Life At Midlife

Loving Life At Midlife: Finding And Accepting YourselfLeanne is a happy empty nester living in Australia and blogging about her midlife journey. Her goal is to share the joys and challenges of this stage of life and counteract the negativity associated with getting older and share stories about loving life. Find her at crestingthehill.com.au.

MIDLIFE ROCKS

If that message hasn’t sunk in by now, let me repeat it – Midlife absolutely Rocks! I’m not sure why a lot of us thought it would be a dull and gray time of life where we slowly descended into old age and incontinence, but we were so wrong! Midlife is an amazing stage where we start seeing the fruits cultivated through the first half of our lives.

AWAKENING

Sometimes I feel like I was asleep for the first half of my life. I lived it and enjoyed it, but I was busy with school, with work, with dating, marrying, mothering and generally establishing my family. I was fully engaged in all those things, but fairly oblivious to who I was as an individual in my own right. Now all those areas have been settled and I’m not striving to keep as many balls in the air, I have time to do the things that interest me and to actually work out what those things are! It’s a strange feeling to reach 50 and to not really know what you like or who you are aside from all the props of your life.

To take the time and to re-discover myself, and to like that person is an absolute revelation. To be a person in my own right again after so long is a revelation.

LIFE’S HURDLES

My life has thrown up a few hurdles along the way – there have been money struggles, relationship struggles, depression struggles, parental struggles, and many others that I can’t even think of at the moment. Each of these has served a purpose in my life. It would have been lovely to have just cruised through and never had to face any of these setbacks. But in doing so – and in defeating them, I’ve reached midlife with a lot more resilience than I might have had if they hadn’t caused bumps in my journey.

They’ve taught me that life goes on regardless. They’ve shown me that bad things can happen but we can rise up stronger from having to deal with them. They’ve proved to be positives as far as growing my character goes, and although I’d have liked to have not had to face them, they have made me the woman I am today.

WORRY SUCKS

One big outcome the tough times have reinforced is that worrying achieves absolutely nothing. I have been a worrier (not a warrior) all my life and it sucks the joy out of you. I’ve spent way too much time trying to be prepared for any and every contingency and it has been a complete waste of time and effort. Bad stuff happens regardless of whether you worry, and more often than not, the things you worry about don’t happen – something completely out of left field happens instead!

LIFE GETS BETTER EVERY DAY

But the biggest lesson midlife is teaching me is that life just keeps getting better and better. Middle age is not the time to put on the dowdy twinset and decide the best of life is over. No, it’s the time to try new things, be brave, laugh out loud and live life to the fullest. There is an absolute abundance of life waiting for us to live – we’ve only just scratched the surface during these first fifty years – all that experience we’ve gained is the springboard to what is ahead of us now.

The good times and the bad times add together to produce the women we are now and we are AMAZING!

THE SECOND HALF

The second half of life can be at least as wonderful as the first half – you may not be the mother of small children any more, but you have those lovely grandbabies to compensate – – and they don’t keep you up at night. You might not be partying into the wee hours as often as you used to, but when you do, you can rock it with the best of them – – or slip quietly out the door and home to bed – because who really cares?! Your metabolism might not let you eat as many calories as you could when you were a teenager, but you learn that a few extra kilos won’t change anyone’s opinion of you – – and if it did – they aren’t worth having in your life.

Midlife is so much more than I expected – it’s deeper, and warmer, and more varied. It’s liberating, fun, and full of new things to discover. Once you get over the hiccup of not being a “young thing” anymore, you realize that you have so much to offer and so much to invest and engage in. I wouldn’t swap what I have now for being 20 again – well maybe I’d go back for a day or two – but certainly not forever – I’ve lived it and I’m happy where I am now and I’m really looking forward to what’s ahead.

Leanne

Hi! I'm Leanne. I’m a happy empty nester living in Australia and blogging (at crestingthehill.com.au) about my midlife journey. I want to share the joys and challenges of this stage of life and counteract the negativity associated with getting older. There is so much to be grateful for and to look forward to, and I’m loving sharing my story with others who are walking the same path.

Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle

Tuesday 6th of December 2016

Hi, this post made the featured list on the Bloggers Pit Stop. Congratulations be looking for the feature on Friday.

Kathleen Bloggers Pit Stop

Leanne

Saturday 10th of December 2016

Wow! thanks so much Kathleen - The Bloggers Pit Stop is such a great resource for the midlife bloggers amongst us xx

Jean | DelightfulRepast.com

Sunday 4th of December 2016

Leanne, all good, but I'm going to email that Worry Sucks paragraph to myself and reread it every day until it takes hold! :D

Leanne

Saturday 10th of December 2016

You do that Jean - because one of the biggest lessons I've learned (and am still working on) is stopping worry in its tracks - it is pointless and wearying to say the least. Why waste a moment on it if you don't need to?

Cathy Lawdanski

Friday 2nd of December 2016

Always love reading your very positive posts, Leanne! Everything you say is so true. And you are right - all that worrying never accomplished a thing! Yea for being on this side of 50!

Leanne

Saturday 10th of December 2016

Thanks so much Cathy - I love all the midlife bloggers I've connected with - all such great examples of what this time of life is about - food, family, fashion and fun!

Beth @Gr

Friday 2nd of December 2016

Yes-- there is no cardigan twinset for me. At 60 my life is fuller, busier, richer than I ever expected. Who knew?

Leanne

Saturday 10th of December 2016

None in my world either Beth - I'm too busy having fun to settle into middle age stereotypes just yet. And I love it when women a little bit older than me are still rocking because it means we've got years of good times ahead!

Laurie Stone

Friday 2nd of December 2016

Wonderful and inspiring, Leanne. I agree, getting older is the ultimate adventure. Thanks for this reminder.

Leanne

Saturday 10th of December 2016

It's hard to believe I thought it would be boring Laurie - it's exactly the opposite and I feel so sorry for women who haven't grasped how lucky we are to be at this age and stage :)

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