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Dear Daddy: Thanks for Believing in Me

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.” – Jim Valvano

This post was written to my father on the first Father’s Day after his death. I had found some cards I had made him in grade school, and this letter just evolved. This will be the third Father’s Day without him. I still miss him – every day.

Dear Dad Daddy,

I am not sure when I graduated from calling you “Daddy,” but I assume sometime in grade school. It’s kind of funny, but ever since you were in ICU last summer, I went back to calling you Daddy. I’m not sure why, but I feel closer to you when I call you Daddy. Of course, I don’t say it aloud. It is my special name for you.

Anyhow, this is our year of firsts, and we visit yet another observance without you – Father’s Day. Instead of getting you Lotto tickets, I ordered altar flowers in your memory for church. I still can’t get over the strange feeling I get when I say “in memory of” instead of “in honor of.” Seriously, those words seemed a bit interchangeable to me until last summer.

A lot has changed in a year. Somethings I am really glad you don’t have to witness. Other things, I wish I could see your reaction. I know you are next to me, but I can’t see your face – though I imagine that you have the huge grin going on! I can picture you doing “the nod” or rolling your eyes. Oh, how I miss that! And your laugh!

All of us think of you all the time. And we talk about you all the time. I used one of your favorite expletives while driving and then I laughed so hard I almost had to pull over. I wasn’t sure if it was me or you that let out, “C’mon, ***hole!”

We “look for the Larry” in all situations. And like pastor said at your funeral, “there is always a story to tell.” We’ve laughed and cried over the stories. When I’m not sure what to do, I think, “What would Dad do.” And as a child of yours, I may choose to do the opposite 🙂

We all feel robbed of getting to spend quality time with you. The Alzheimer’s stole moments and it was horrible to see you slowly slip away. But what I find amazing is when I dream about you, I see you healthy, whole and happy. It is like having a visit with you, and it just confirms over and over the hope of the Resurrection.

Dad, I thank you so much for all you did for me. I told you, and I do believe you heard all of us whisper to you in your final hours.

But just in case you didn’t hear, I wrote you this letter. I know you’ll hear me, because you dwell in my heart, and that is where these words come from. Thank you for life, for loving us, for your witness of faith, for all your good and for all your faults. Because you weren’t perfect, you showed us that sinners become saints. Because of your love as a father, you gave us a glimpse of the love of our heavenly Father.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you. And Happy Father’s Day.

I love you, Daddy.


Photos are of cards Lynne Cobb made for her father.

Read more from Lynne Cobb on her blog, Mid-life Random Ramblings

Lynne Cobb

Lynne is a professional writer and blogger, with articles and essays published in local dailies and national publications. She is blessed with a supportive husband and family, who encourage her in all her endeavors. Check out Lynne's blog Midlife Random Ramblings, where you will also find links to recently published works.

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Carol Cassara

Saturday 14th of June 2014

Believing in someone is the most powerful thing you can do for them.


Saturday 14th of June 2014

That is so very true Carol.


Saturday 14th of June 2014

What a heartfelt, beautiful tribute to your loving father. I am so sorry for the loss of your daddy.


Saturday 14th of June 2014

Thank you, Pat. I find comfort that there is so much to miss about him.

Melissa Lawler

Friday 13th of June 2014

You are so very lucky to have years of good memories of your Daddy. <3


Friday 13th of June 2014

Yes Melissa, I was truly blessed to call him Dad.


Friday 13th of June 2014

Yes Melissa, I was truly blessed to have him as my father.


Friday 13th of June 2014

I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. Beautiful tribute to him.


Friday 13th of June 2014

Thanks Lana.

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