So many circumstances can lead a match made in heaven to imminent disaster when life’s circumstances take a toll on the relationship.
We’ve seen over and over how happily married couples can become distant, and eventually infidelity comes around the corner along with many other things.
Sometimes love just isn’t enough to make a couple stay together – and move together – towards the future. The saddest part is that they choose to ignore all the signs along the way that could have helped them mend whatever it was that needed mending.
When two people marry out of love, their hearts and minds join (if only for the duration of the ceremony) with happiness, a sense of fulfillment and faith as they face their future together.
Sometimes their bliss doesn’t even make it past their honeymoon. Maybe we should ask ourselves, why?
With a high divorce rate, our younger generations are viewing marriage as a risk.
What can we do to restore people’s faith in marriage? One of the things we can try is to customize our idea on love. Let’s make it up close and personal, and we may discover what works better for us.
For me love is being in peace with myself and my husband and settling in bed when the day is over, knowing we can face anything as long as we’re together.
Yet things aren’t so simple. In married life we deal with affection, love, emotions, trust and more. Also, we can’t forget about sex – wanting and sometimes just sheer lust. Who said you can’t feel pure, simple, and honest lust for your husband or wife?
Some face marriage as it was a mirage, when they look at it from afar they see castles and fairy tales, but when they come closer all they find is emptiness and sorrow. That’s why precisely we need to face marriage with an open and honest approach. Knowing beforehand what WE want out of it, so it is tailored for us.
Marriage is dynamic, it’s always changing, basically because we do too. That’s the great thing about life, our experiences shape who we become each day and that affects our relationships as well.
Let’s face it as months become years, and years become decades, and decades become a life long relation, “until death do us apart” can and will become a very loooooong time. Hence, we need to make sure that love has to be enough to keep us together.
But not any type of love my dear friends, it has to be the right one for each couple to move on together, if not sadly it will never be enough.
Read more from Martiza Martinez on her blog, Believing.
Maritza Martinez
I'm a stay at home English teacher, mother of four (one daughter and three boys) and have been happily married to my high school sweetheart for over twenty-seven years. I love to read, write and garden. I strive to always be learning new things, and to reflect on life with its ups and downs. Books have always been my best friends and helped me overcome a very difficult childhood. I owe this to a great teacher who taught me to love books and vegetables and inspired me to become a teacher. I struggle with a chronic illness (Myasthenia Gravis) everyday, but I don't let it take control of who I am. I take life at a slower pace and am enjoying every minute of it.
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