The 3 of Us – Friends at Midlife

Miriam Irwey has found that, for whatever reason, the friendships she’s made at midlife have proved to be some of the most rewarding relationships of her life. Read more from Miriam on her blog.

We are 3 women who have been friends for the past 3 years.

Some may think the odd number of 3 leads to trouble.  Think junior high and high school.  Not so for the three of us. We adore and love each other; we accept each other as we are.  Goofy, funny, dramatic, sensible, not so sensible, smart, sometimes not so smart.  Midlife friendship.

We are ages 56, 57 and 67.  We each have a history with common themes and yet a history that speaks to each of us.

What I find absolutely delightful is we have never in three years had any type of disagreement.  We meet monthly for dinner in various restaurants throughout the area where we live and pick up exactly where we left off the month before.

Our time together is filled with laughter (the more the better), updates about where we are in our lives; work, family, the day to day stuff, sharing our wonderment about our children, updating each other on the books we have been reading and just enjoying each other.

Over the past three years I have often wondered: What is it about us that makes it work?

Is it we are at that stage in life where we don’t feel compelled to compete with each other like so many of us felt we had to do when we were younger?

Or are we each comfortable in our own skin so that we when we come together we are in the moment?

Perhaps we have gained wisdom through the years and realize that if we accept each other we each have a gift in each other.

Fun to ponder but even more fun to know I have two friends I can depend on; two dynamic women who add value to my life in many ways.

Truly grateful for this gift.

3 women, midlifers, sharing a bond; a gift in midlife.