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Some time ago an email showed up in my box titled: Why You Don’t Have Girlfriends.
As I reviewed the answers they shared (reported poll results) I started thinking about so many different things. I’d love to hear your thoughts – whether you agree, disagree or have other questions that might be asked of women in midlife regarding female friendship.
1. At some point in midlife, do some of us outgrow the need to have girlfriends?
2. For all the positives technology affords us, a negative is that we often tend to not trust people we meet online. So if we don’t want to use online platforms to meet other women, how do we meet them?
3. Do so many women stop having girlfriends once their children are off to college? Is that when connections tend to drop off? Does that mean that some of our relationships with other women revolve around our children’s activities and when those activities change, our connection with other moms changes as well?
4. As we grow older why is it more difficult to meet other women and make friends?
5. What is it about girlfriends that some last a lifetime and others lose their thread of connection and disappear?
For me personally, friendship in midlife is quite different from when I was younger. It is a deeper connection, more authentic, more open and being more comfortable with self. But perhaps most important is that I am my own best friend. Eleanor Roosevelt said “Friendship with oneself is all important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.”
So is it that we first must become our own best friend in order to successfully maintain friendships with other women? Or is it that some of us don’t have a need, desire, or urge to have girlfriends and are quite content with how things currently are?
Surveys, in the end, only beg more questions based on responses.
What do you think?