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My Husband’s Mistress

It’s been going on since before we were married.  It started out of peer pressure, because everyone he knew was doing it.  At first, I think it felt almost like work for him, but then it developed into real passion.

She became an official mistress about 20 years ago, when we were living in another state.  No one knew us, and there was anonymity in our small Texas town.  If he took off for a couple of hours, no one would notice, and I certainly wouldn’t ask around in public to find out where he’d been.

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A couple of times over the years, I think he’s wanted to stop.  But the desire always came back.  So much so that I finally acknowledged it was part of him, and accepted it.

I got resentful when she took time away from me, but he always seemed to return a better man.  It was as though she fulfilled a physical need and a spiritual one, both things he just couldn’t find with me.

Their times ranged from quickies in the afternoon to marathons lasting almost a full day.  But even the briefest encounter could help him clear his mind and regain perspective.  Seemed like a paradox to me, but I really didn’t have a choice.  I even tried to join them a few times, but it just wasn’t right, and I retreated to give them their time.

They go all over together.  Exploring unique parts of the city, and occasionally even traveling.  I’ve learned not to try to talk him out of it once he’s got his mind set on it.

This morning when he said he was going out to spend time with her, I sighed.  I had other plans for the day.  But they’d have to wait.  He needed her.

So I gave him my blessing, and he put on his shoes, and went running.

 

Read more from Lisha Perry Fink on her blog, The Lucky Mom

Lisha Perry Fink

Lisha began her writing career in New Orleans in the 1980s, when she entered the glamorous world of writing corporate newsletters and ad copy. Her words – which have appeared on everything from utility bill stuffers to beer bottle labels and annual reports – finally found a home in 2010 when she launched her first blog, The Lucky Mom. Today she chronicles her experiences on The Lucky Mom's successor, LishaWrites.com. She is currently writing her first novel.

Cindy

Saturday 14th of December 2013

I was very intrigued. My husband doesn't seem to have a mistress...unless it's the TV, and for that tryst he doesn't really change.

Lisha Fink

Thursday 19th of December 2013

Well, at least you can join him!

Cindyhuber

Wednesday 20th of November 2013

Hey, I admit it...you had me...right up to when you joined him and the mistress...then I thought golf? My husband's is football on the tube...so I lose the TV as well...

Lisha Fink

Thursday 21st of November 2013

I'm glad I had you going for a bit. If it had gone on too much longer it probably would have gotten a little creepy.

Karen D. Austin

Tuesday 19th of November 2013

Well done--in style and content. My husband is a writer after he gets home from work. He's written 7 books in the last 8 years. I do proof his first drafts, so I can connect with him that way. And I've decided to do things in the evening with friends rather than sulk or nag. It is what it is! At least his hobby produces royalties (modest, but it's something).

Lisha Fink

Thursday 21st of November 2013

Wow! A mistress who pays! I think I would embrace her in a whole different way if that were our case. Thanks for the kind words, Karen.

Lisha Fink

Tuesday 19th of November 2013

Deborah! Thanks for stopping by! I wish I had it in me, really I do. But between my wonky knees and my bladder traumatized by three pregnancies there's just no way. (Was that TMI? Oh, well.) But you with your young knees should join him! It's every guy's dream, you know?

Deborah the Closet Monster

Monday 18th of November 2013

I'm hoping I can eventually get my husband back into seeing this particular mistress. I'd like to make it a three-way, when I'm in running shape again!

Lisha Fink

Tuesday 19th of November 2013

Deborah! Thanks for stopping by! I wish I had it in me, really I do. But between my wonky knees and my bladder traumatized by three pregnancies there’s just no way. (Was that TMI? Oh, well.) But you with your young knees should join him! It’s every guy’s dream, you know?

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