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Grandma’s Bald Baby Love

Besotted with love. Bewitched by his every move. Can’t stop thinking about him. Wondering what he is doing now. Wait one minute, then wondering again. Looking at pictures of him over and over. He isn’t much to look at. Pretty much bald, over-size head, big ears, small mouth. But I think he is beautiful.



The intensity of my feelings reminds me of junior high, the year I turned 13, when infatuations ruled the day. Will he give me his i.d. bracelet? Will he ask me to dance? What can I do to make him notice me? What will I do if he does notice me? Head over heels, his every gesture enchants me. I could stare at him for hours.

My husband is quite tolerant of my behavior. He remembers my youthful, flirtier days fondly. He is not upset by the sudden appearance of this new significantly younger man in my life. One that seizes all my attention and conscious thought. My spouse of 36 years thinks it is cute, charming, even, that I am so consumed by this new passion.


Sadly (and not unlike my experiences with 7th grade boys), he does not know I exist. His vision is limited. He has great lungs, though, and can be heard loudly by many. His cries do not upset me. I see them as a sign of strength and vigor. I can’t get enough of them.

This is probably what the poets meant when they talked of love sickness. Except that the object of my affection (again like my 7th grade crushes) does not love me back. I am fine with that. Who knew I could handle unrequited passion with this much aplomb! I am the very picture of calm (me??) I am confident that one day, one day very soon, he will get to know me, and he will adore me in return.


After all he is only 6 months old.

So I wait for a sign, a signal from him that he knows I am a part of his life, an object of his affection.

Thinking – what should he call me? grandma? nana?

Of course it will be months before he learns who I am, much less learns to talk.

I am waiting.

Very very happily.

*This grandmother and grandchild tale is dedicated to our 1st grandchild – and to all other new grandmas who have fallen in love with a person under 10 lbs.*

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Nancy Wolf

Nancy L. Wolf writes about parenting, family life, higher education and mental health from the perspective of someone who has seen it all and still has a strong sense of humor. She practiced law for 30 plus years while raising 2 now adult kids and has been married for 36 years to a wonderfully tolerant man. Now semi-retired, but hardly retiring, she helps parents of young adults with mental health challenges through and "parents of young adults who struggle" on facebook. In her spare time, Nancy is a volunteer college advisor with a in Wash DC, a group that helps low-income kids get to college and on the board of NAMI Montgomery County She relishes being the most opinionated member of her book club, sticks to advanced beginner classes in pilates and regularly cleans up after two unruly rescue terriers. And did I mention that Nancy is a new grandma? Photos of her adorable grandson are available upon request.

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Thursday 7th of August 2014

Great article that really hits home for me since we just found out that we're pregnant again. Our first is 3 1/2 years old and the baby will be born in March. Exciting times! I came across your site because we’re both attending (at least someone from your site is) the ASE14 blogger’s meeting, so I wanted to introduce myself. This is my first year, and I’m looking forward to learning from everyone! See you (?) in NYC.


Anne Parris

Thursday 7th of August 2014

Hi Lee, I'm Anne, one of the site owners. I'll be attending ASE14. See you in New York, and congrats on the new baby!


Wednesday 6th of August 2014

Congratulations Nancy. My son is 15 and from the beginning my mom told me that being a grandparent was much better than being a parent. All of the fun with none of the responsibility. Enjoy your new grandson!


Wednesday 6th of August 2014

Congratulations Nancy. My son is 15 but and my mom has told me from the beginning the being a grandparent is better than being a parent because you have all of the good with none of the responsibility. Enjoy your new grandson.

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