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Goal for 2016: Embrace Your Style

Goal for 2016-Embrace Your StyleFor some reason it has a bad reputation. There are  women who embrace it, and others who hate the word and reject it. Therefore, I am here today to defend the word “style.” Like it or not, we all have a particular style we project or communicate with our daily choices.

Style is not just for the rich and famous; it is not merely about fashion runways; nor royalty in the UK; nor the latest cover of Vogue; or whether you still wear stilettos or not. In fact, the dictionary simply defines style as “a manner of doing something. A methodology.” Therefore, your style can include fashion choices, home décor, gift giving, your posture, the way you treat other people, entertainment choices, your choice of car, your pets, books you read, causes you support, dependability, diligence and on and on.

We understand style the more we understand ourselves. Understanding myself has taken far longer than I wish, but now, in my sixties, I feel like I have more of a handle on me than ever before. Decisions are easier; joy is deeper; and confidence reigns when we completely understand and embrace our unique selves. We also cease to make excuses for who we are, and are less likely to be forced into decisions we know are not in sync with our modus operandi. We own our style, unashamedly.

I began to think more about my personal style development this past week when my husband commented on our furniture. His style preference would be for everything to match, to come from one quality line and basically look like a show room. My furniture style is mismatched, but it works because the pieces represent more of a vintage French country flair. I think I would be bored living in the showroom, and I feel at home in the more creative room. He gets this, because on our anniversary, he gifted me a card (after 31 years of marriage) which pictured a pair of hiking boots next to a bright red pair of fashionista shoes.  Inside the message read: ”We may have different styles, but we will always be a perfect pair.” AHHH.

My own connective ribbons are more apparent to me today in all of the areas of my life, even to my choice of retailer where I work part-time. I have developed a consistent style which is identifiable. I can sit here as I write …  smile …  and know I am more me than ever before in my life. It is okay that I prefer mismatched furniture, Broadway musicals, Christmas, bookstores, sunrises, strong coffee, smiling, singing, accessories, candles, museums, the Beatles, Frank Sinatra, and a touch of leopard print.

Can you do the same? Do you understand yourself so well that you believe you have an identifiable style and can defend it? Comfort and strength develop from the ability to own our uniqueness and love it. However, part of my journey to understand myself has also been to improve myself in certain areas. I now practice behaviors which were always a part of my makeup, I just had to recover them from years of hiding. Let’s think about setting some personal style goals for the next year and encouraging one another to walk toward that complete satisfaction. It is never too late. I hope to carry this conversation forward in a variety of ways for 2016.

Thanks for stopping by, have a wonderful week, and please let me know your thoughts! Do you like the word style, or reject it?

Pamela Lutrell

Pamela Lutrell began her blog, <a href="">over50feeling40</a>, July 2010 with a desire to encourage women over 50 to walk in strength, confidence and joy. Of course, head turning style makes each day fun!

Pamela Lutrell

Pamela Lutrell began her blog, over50feeling40, July 2010 with a desire to encourage women over 50 to walk in strength, confidence and joy. Of course, head turning style makes each day fun!

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Elena Williams

Monday 18th of January 2016

Enjoyed this so much! I'm 79 - Casual/Classy. In love with updating my look and bought my first pair of tall black leather boots, tucking in black skinny's and feel so YOUNG! I have had a ball trimming down my wardrobe and adding some quality pieces. I have five children, nine grandchildren and three great-grandchildren who are proud of me and happy that I can now afford a few cashmere sweaters...haha.

Jeanne Tapp

Thursday 17th of December 2015

Thanks for your style post, Pamela. I love it and I especially love your handle of 'over50feeling40' - me too! I often feel I think like the 20,30,40 something I wanted to be and never had the courage to speak out. Then whoops, who's that gal in the mirror?? I'll enjoy following you!


Thursday 17th of December 2015

Thanks Jeanne...So happy to have you follow and join in our conversations!! Happy Holidays!

Gail Dixon

Tuesday 15th of December 2015

Hi Pam, l too love reading your blog as soon as I get the email I go straight to the subject ! Style...well, when I reached 50, I felt that I had been waiting my whole life to be this age, yesterday I turned 59 and yes....I feel I now know who I am, I don't have to conform and I can dress myself and my home how I want to and not how I think I should! Thank you for your inspiring messages and challenges! I will continue to "be me" and continue to take the challenge of not conforming! Have a wonderful festive season!


Wednesday 16th of December 2015

Thank you, Gail. I can hear the joy in your comment! You have a wonderful holiday season as well!

Mary Lou Hartman

Tuesday 15th of December 2015

Great post. It's only after 40 years of wearing a nurse's uniform that I can now determine my style. I am 68 and retired and your blog has given me some direction in determining my style in all aspects of my life. Thank you. This past year has been one of wonderful discovery and happiness.


Tuesday 15th of December 2015

What an honor to be a part of that journey with you, Mary Lou! That is how I have felt since I left teaching. Please stay in touch and thank you for reading and being there!


Tuesday 15th of December 2015

It's funny. I know what I like and don't like. But to put a name to it? Tough . . .


Tuesday 15th of December 2015

Names are not really necessary, Diane. It is more about you understanding yourself and what your style means to you. I think when we learn to express it to others we have a better understanding of who we are and the life that represents who we are. There is peace in knowing that...but it doesn't really need a label. Thanks for stopping by.

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