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Five Benefits To Having Holiday Sex

As the holiday season comes to a close, we encourage our readers to take care of themselves. In doing so, we bring out this reminder from our sex columnist, Walker Thorton. An important reminder that holiday sex can, indeed, relax you and put you at ease during the typical holiday chaos!

When life gets stressful we often forget to take care of ourselves. We make time for others without remembering that self-care is vital.

Holiday schedules and baking, parties, decorating, shopping, and all the other bits of getting the family ready for the holidays take a huge amount of time. It can get downright chaotic. If you really want to approach the holidays at your best (or any part of life) you might consider the benefits of having sex. Even if it’s just a quickie, or a private party of one.

Having sex doesn’t require a lot of work. Do take a little time to get in the mood – whether that’s by dressing up a little, setting the scene with candles and clean sheets, or thinking sexy thoughts. These actions provide a transition from that overworked mind into a state of readiness. You’ll feel sexier and in a place where you’re ready to receive.

Sex is about receiving, being taken care of and nurtured, just as much as it is about giving. Emotionally and physically.

5 Good Reasons To Have Sex Right Now:

  1. Five Benefits to Having Holiday SexWant to feel happier? Less stressed? Orgasms result in the release of oxytocin, known as the ‘feel good’ hormone. Sure, cuddling helps too, but the orgasm is what really gives you that “ahh” feeling.
  2. Want that fresh glowing look for a party? Having sex makes us look healthier, and some would say, younger. Eric Braverman, MD, founder of PATH Medical Center in New York City, says having sex releases a key compound in the body that is good for all kinds of things—including improving your complexion. During sex, your body produces a hormone called DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone). “It can boost the immune system, give you healthier skin and even decrease depression,” he says.”  (Source)
  3. Not sleeping well? Tense? Orgasms physically and emotionally relieve tension and exhaust the body, which can help you fall asleep quicker. Here’s what Dr. Lauren Streicher, Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University and author of Sex Rx: Hormones Health And Your Best Sex Ever, has to say about that. “Generally people do sleep better after masturbating, but very often it’s from feeling relaxed and satisfied.” She’s talking about the benefits of masturbation, but it’s the orgasm that is the essential component.
  4. Blood pressure spiking after the mandatory office Christmas party? Go home and have sex. It’s been attributed to lowering blood pressure. A study published in Biological Psychology found a connection between frequent intercourse and lower diastolic (the bottom number) blood pressure. And, yes, a good round of sexual activity does momentarily increase the heart rate. But it’s the overall effect of sex and orgasms that helps with blood pressure.
  5. Women are the givers, the doers, the ones who work so hard to make all the pieces fall together. We try and make everyone happy and the holidays are peak times for us to exhaust ourselves trying to ensure the experience is perfect. Take some time out for yourself. Pour a glass of wine, or run a nice hot tub and enjoy yourself. Indulge in a round of self-pleasuring— use your hands to apply your favorite scented lotion or body wash. Get out the foot/back massager and use it to relax all over. Invite your lover, partner, spouse to meet you at home for lunch. Plan for your enjoyment. Make it part of the holiday to-do list.
  6. And perhaps this is one of the best reasons to schedule sex, regardless of how busy we are. When we are stressed we don’t always feel in harmony with those around us. It’s easy to shift into resentment or frustration if we feel like we’re doing all the work. Having sex with our partner is a great way to shift the focus and pay attention to what’s important. We feel better when we have sex—some sexuality experts say it raises self-esteem. We feel more intimate with our partner and all of those things make it a little easier to face the umpteenth holiday party, bake one more batch of cookies or deal with unpredictable relatives.

Walker Thornton

We are delighted to have Walker Thornton as our Women’s Sexual Health columnist. After working for over 10 years in the field of sexual violence against women, Walker is now enjoying a new career as a freelance writer, public speaker, and sex educator with an emphasis on midlife women. Her blog, was ranked #5 by in their top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. You can connect with her on Facebook and Twitter For questions about sexual health, write her at

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Ellie Skinner

Wednesday 28th of December 2016

Oooh my husband has to read this article! I want one night for celebrating the holidays :D

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