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This Father’s Day, Give Hubby a Gift He’ll Truly Appreciate – A Cared-For You may feel like you’re going through perimenopause or menopause all alone, but if you’re married, your husband probably feels like he’s going through it with you! Every night you toss, turn and throw off the bed covers, is probably an eye opener for him. Literally. Every time you complain about hot flashes, he sweats it out. No doubt he’s been the brunt of your menopausal mood swings. And sex? It’s a good test of his memory.

So this Father’s Day promise hubby you’ll take care of yourself… to show how much your care for him.

Find excuses TO exercise

Exercise is important at any age. For women in the midst of perimenopause and menopause, however, exercise is more important than ever. If your ever-tightening waistband isn’t enough reason to get you moving, these facts should:

  • Exercise will help you sleep better at night.
  • Weight-bearing exercises help stave off osteoporosis.
  • Exercise can help improve your posture, giving you more confidence.
  • Exercise raises your metabolism, which can help shrink your expanding waistline.
  • According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, exercise can reduce stress and anxiety, improving your overall mood.
  • Yoga has been credited with improving sexual enjoyment, but any kind of exercise increases blood flow and can boost your libido.

And on the seventh day…

Just as your body needs exercise, it also needs to rest. Your body repairs and rejuvenates itself when you rest. Here are a few shout-outs for shut-eye:

  • Inadequate rest can adversely affect your mood.
  • Lack of sleep/rest can have a boomerang effect, making you overtired – and making it harder to fall asleep at night.
  • Meditation can alleviate stress, an unwanted byproduct of perimenopause and menopause
  • Exhausted at the end of the day? If so, it’s unlikely you’ll want to get frisky with hubby. (Notice how we keep coming back to sex? Remember, it’s not all about you!)

A balanced diet

When I say “diet,” I don’t mean a strict weight-loss plan. I’m talking about healthy eating as a way of life. Here are a few reminders of what you should – and shouldn’t – be eating:

  • According to the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, focus on vegetables, fruits, whole grains, low-fat dairy products and lean protein foods.
  • Limit yourself to one alcoholic beverage a day. (Yes, you can toast dad on Father’s Day.)
  • Avoid super-sized portions. You might want to use a smaller plate, bowl and glass. It’s a mental thing; your plate will look full but will contain less food (and fewer calories).
  • When eating out, select healthy menu options. (Yes, you can go out on the town for Father’s Day.)
  • Cook more often at home so you can control exactly what you’re eating. (You can make hubby’s favorite foods… and include healthy options for yourself, too.)
  • Watching your diet can help you in the battle of the bulge, keep your weight in check… and make you feel sexier in the sack. (Yes, we’re back to sex again.)

Forget the silk tie this Father’s Day (unless we’re talking a Fifty Shades type of celebration!). Instead, start taking care of yourself. But don’t stop there. Make it an ongoing priority. And if you feel a hot flash coming on, you can shed your clothes and tell hubby you’re feeling amorous. (It’ll be our little secret.)

Happy Father’s Day!!

Ellen Dolgen

Ellen Dolgen, menopause education is a mission. Spurred by her own experience struggling with the symptoms of menopause, Dolgen has devoted the last ten years of her life to helping other women during this often difficult time. While she’s not a doctor or scientist, she’s “talked the talk” with countless menopause experts, so that she can “walk the menopause walk” and share the keys to this menopause kingdom. Together with her son, Jack, she created a FREE eBook, MENOPAUSE MONDAYS The Girlfriend’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving During Perimenopause and Menopause, a comprehensive guide to all things menopause—the symptoms, the treatments, and the long-range effects on a woman’s health. Dolgen shares the expertise of numerous specialists to replace confusion and embarrassment with medically sound solutions, presented in an entertaining and informative way.

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Tuesday 10th of June 2014

Thanks for the reminder that my husband is going through this with me. I feel sorry for the poor guy most days! I've found that exercise helps me the most too - good for mind and body!

Ellen Dolgen

Wednesday 11th of June 2014

Be sure to be open with your husband and reach out for the support and love you need and deserve.

marcia @ Menopausal Mother

Monday 9th of June 2014

Exercise has helped me the most---I always feel great after my zumba class!

Ellen Dolgen

Wednesday 11th of June 2014

I have to try that one day.......everyone says it is so fun!

Ellen Dolgen

Tuesday 10th of June 2014

Everyone says that Zumba is so much fun - you don't even realize it is great exercise.

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