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Life At Midlife: No More Rules

no rules at midlifeLeanne writes regularly about her journey through midlife at Cresting The Hill where this post was initially featured. 

Being over 50 lends itself to the occasional epiphany – mine this week (as I ate my toast) was that I don’t have to eat the stale crusts just because I was told to when I was a child. I don’t really like the crusts all that much but I’m a good girl and I eat them 90% of the time, but you know what? I don’t have to if I don’t want to!

This got me thinking about some other things I don’t have to do now that I’m a big girl and all grown up and in my second half of life:

#1 I don’t have to put up with toxic people

I can let those people slide out of my life fairly painlessly. I don’t need to stay in contact because they were my friends or because I worked with them, or for whatever other reason. I can gracefully move away and not have their influence in my life. No more apologizing for things they’ve done, or they don’t approve of. I can just get on with enjoying the friends I have who are lovely people.

#2 I don’t have to go to church every Sunday

I grew up in the era where regular church going was every Sunday – unless you were dying or giving birth. Today’s church goers call themselves regular if they turn up once a month. I’m still a great believer in going on as many Sundays as possible, but if it’s the Sunday School service (with 100 children who aren’t my own) or the long-winded missionary visitor, I can choose to stay home and let someone else have my seat that day.

#3 I don’t have to wear a bra around the house

One of the blessings of small boobs is that they behave themselves – they only swing around when I run (and I avoid running as much as possible). In the privacy of my own home (now there’s no children to embarrass) I can be au naturale under my shirt or jumper and nobody is any the wiser. The sheer pleasure of taking off my bra after a long day at work rates as one of life’s blessings in my humble opinion!

#4 I don’t have to go to everything I’m invited to

No more feeling guilty about not going to Tupperware parties, or makeup parties, or linen parties, or work parties or distant friend’s parties. No, I won’t suffer in silence anymore so I don’t offend anyone. If the party invitation is just for numbers or for making a sale, I am quite happy to say “no thanks” with no excuses. My time is precious and it takes a fair amount of impetus to get me to go out nowadays – so I’ll only go if it’s something I’d like to be a part of.

#5 I don’t have to justify my choices

I’ve finally taken ownership of my life – I don’t have to explain why I choose to do something or not do it. I don’t have to explain why I like to eat take-away sometimes, I don’t have to explain why I only work part-time. I don’t have to explain why I don’t drink alcohol. I don’t have to explain why I have pink tips in my hair. I don’t have to explain anything to anybody because it’s my business and not theirs.

So, along with not always eating my crusts, I’ve found that I can break some other rules, too (mostly rules that I had somehow gotten bound up in). I can be my own person and have more freedom and make my own new boundaries. Life after 50 just keeps getting better!


Hi! I'm Leanne. I’m a happy empty nester living in Australia and blogging (at about my midlife journey. I want to share the joys and challenges of this stage of life and counteract the negativity associated with getting older. There is so much to be grateful for and to look forward to, and I’m loving sharing my story with others who are walking the same path.

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Sarah Eliza

Thursday 25th of February 2016

Ahhhh this post is amazing!! Going to try to be inspired by you to say "no more rules" RIGHT NOW. ;P Such a fun and funny list! Thank you for sharing at #FridayFrivolity. :)

Sarah Eliza

Thursday 25th of February 2016

Featuring you tonight! :) Thank you again for sharing -- I really loved this post. #FridayFrivolity


Saturday 20th of February 2016

Great list! I am looking forward to my son being done with first communion classes so I can skip church occasionally.

Joan M Harrington

Saturday 20th of February 2016

Hi Leanne :)

I can TOTALLY relate! Love #3 lol I do that ALL THE TIME its the best! Great share :)

Donna Parker

Saturday 20th of February 2016

Time is the greatest teacher, especially of what is 'really' important. Thanks, enjoyed this so much. :)

Debbie @ Coach Debbie Runs

Friday 19th of February 2016

This post made me laugh and nod my head at the same time. Perhaps because I have small boobs too. :-). And I give my crusts to my dogs so I don't have to deal with them. Thanks for sharing at the Blogger's Pit Stop.

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