He blinked a couple of times. Stumbled over his words just a little. Appeared somewhat pale. Shot the story quickly back to the anchors.
He covered up well.
I don’t read too many self-help books. After talking all day about mental health, I don’t particularly want to read about it at night. But I was drawn to this one for a couple of reasons.
First, the title was reassuring. It wasn’t one of those, “DO THIS AND YOU WILL EXPERIENCE PERFECT INNER WELL-BEING!!!” kind of titles. No… you will just be 10% happier than you are now. Not a bad deal.
Second, I have panic disorder myself. Mostly in performance situations. But it crops up when I feel nervous about meeting new people. Handling novel situations. I am much better than I used to be. But I am always looking for ideas. Better coping techniques. Ways to help patients who have the same issue.
(My mother had a significant obsessive-compulsive disorder so I have always counted myself lucky. Just a whiff of anxiety.)
I thoroughly enjoyed Mr. Harris’ writing. Funny, engaging, frank. I don’t think you need to have an anxiety disorder to benefit from it. He is describing the distinct problems that any driven, perfectionistic person might tend to have. And what he did about them while maintaining his career path, his “edge” as he calls it.
The book turns out to be a primer for meditation as well. I had learned to meditate years ago but had long since given up the practice. Much to my dismay. Since reading, I have tried to find a little time every now and then to practice.
I am awful, as most beginning meditators are.
Mr. Harris’ stance is that it only takes 5 minutes a day to alter your brain’s functioning and to alleviate anxiety. The book provides excellent instruction and simple explanations of Buddhist concepts behind meditation.
One day, I tried it. I was walking up the extremely steep hill right before you get to our house. Usually I count my steps on this part as it helps me keep up the pace. (Okay, maybe I did inherit a bit of OCD…) Instead, I focused on my breathing and let go of as much conscious thought as possible. Much to my amazement, I forgot where I was on the hill. I couldn’t tell if I had almost finished or had just started.
I was just there.
What the book is not. He doesn’t try to talk you into being a Buddhist. He doesn’t say that his ideas or techniques are the only way out of anxiety, or even the best way. He doesn’t claim to be an expert. He is simply telling his story.
I would highly recommend it.
As for me?
I am going to try to find that 5 minutes.
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Dr. Rutherford was not paid for this review.