My last post Finding Your Courage in Midlife seemed well received. I guess there are lots of people out there who either are finding or know someone who is finding that courage. That was wonderful. The comments written were beautiful stories.
So I was hoping that maybe a question or two would pop up for this month’s “Ask Dr. Margaret” column. Maybe someone would write who was struggling. Someone might admit, even anonymously, that they have a problem. That they don’t understand how to get from A to Z.
Maybe even to B.
Maybe they are too afraid. Paralyzed. Numb. Overwhelmed. Depressed.
I didn’t hear from a soul.
I know the column is new. I have been told it takes time for these things to grow – for folks to get used to the idea.
I think, however, that’s it is also still harder in our culture to talk about mental health than it is to talk about a heart condition. Or maybe even an orgasm.
Because we guilt ourselves so much.
The belief is that we are weak because we can’t fix ourselves. We aren’t spiritual enough, or strong enough.
I’m a psychologist because I got some great therapy. I wanted to do for others what she did for me. I was lost. I didn’t have answers. I know it was the one of the best choices I ever made.
To ask for help. To seek another perspective on my life, other than my own. To be guided by someone who had guided others out of a similar place. Into a much better one.
As I am now reading others’ blogs or articles, as I talk with friends and patients, I learn from them every day.
I know I still have questions.
I’ve learned it’s empowering to ask them.