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A Mother’s Day Tribute to My Mother-in-Law

A celebration of a mother-in-law? Why not! Barbara Hammond blogs at Zero to 60 and Beyond and contributes to Huffington Post, MORE magazine, and anyplace else that allows her in.


A Mother's Day Tribute

Mother’s Day is the perfect day to write about my mother-in-law. She left us way too soon, twenty seven years ago. None of us thought dad would last a year without her. We were so wrong.

She has been on my mind a lot, as we’ve been watching dad die by inches for the past three years. I’m not sure what he’s hanging onto, or if mom is somewhere peacefully blocking passage, but none of us could have imagined it this way.

My mother-in-law was a breath of fresh air. The woman would spell D A R N in front of my kids which always made me laugh.

Then there was the day she made me choke on my morning coffee relaying how she learned what f*&k meant. I’m not kidding.

As her story went, after a few months of marriage she asked dad what the word f*&k meant. She’d always thought it was an Italian word, because it was the Italian boys who wrote it on the sidewalk where she grew up.

“For Christ’s sake! We’ve been doing it for three months and you don’t know what it is?”

You have to laugh!

It’s the big family events that really get me. When our oldest son Jeff got married 18 years ago I missed her more than I could have ever imagined. She would have adored his wife, Marcie, and Greg’s wife, Marsha. When our 1st grandson was born I thought about mom constantly. She was such a wonderful grandmother… I couldn’t possibly live up to her standard, could I?

She would have laughed, as we do, about having only boys in our family. Four grandsons and three great-grandsons seemed like a pattern. But when the 1st great-granddaughter, Caylee was born 5 years ago, I know mom would have been over the moon with joy for my sister-in-law and her family! Now they have 2 beautiful girls mom would have adored.

Sally Hammond was a lady and a wonderful homemaker. She did not like being called a housewife, thank you very much. Home was her domain and she took it very seriously. I could never measure up.

So Mom, if you’re watching and listening, I’m blowing you a kiss and sending you much love for all you were and still are to me.




Barbara Hammond

I am an Artist, Illustrator, Writer, Children’s Book Author and, Blogger. I love doing all of it.. Blogging helped me get through my 60th birthday with a great attitude and look forward to many more. As an entrepreneur I’ve owned a modeling agency and a health spa. I’ve sold advertising for major market radio and newspapers. It took me till midlife to realize I’d been given some amazing gifts and needed to honor them. The rest is history. Check out my books: The Duffy Chronicles and While You Were Sleeping

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Saturday 9th of May 2015

Beautiful tribute to your mother-in-law. Happy Mother's Day to you!

Beth Havey

Saturday 9th of May 2015

Wonderful that you wrote about your mother-in-law. They too often affect the mothering of our children. When my second daughter was married both of her grandmothers were gone. She loved them dearly and they loved her.

Barbara Hammond

Saturday 9th of May 2015

So true, Eileen! Thanks for commenting here. b


Friday 8th of May 2015

Lovely, Barb! Special peole leave an indelible ink mark on our heart - it is in the shape of love!

Jennifer Connolly

Friday 8th of May 2015

Beautiful. Funny about the f***! You are blessed to have such a wonderful one, who is helping your Dad!

Barbara Hammond

Friday 8th of May 2015

Thanks, Jennifer.

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