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5 Fashion Reminders for Midlife Women

important fashion remindersAs I have reinvented my own style over the past 13 years, I’ve learned so much. We know that learning comes from making mistakes, we just have to have the humility to admit some decisions have truly been unfortunate. I am sure there have been times I entered a room and someone was inwardly saying, WHAT WAS SHE THINKING? I have certainly seen it for myself eventually.

Today, I wanted to share with you my top five mistakes in an effort to help you also be on guard and avoid the same.

Important Fashion Reminders for The Midlife Woman


I admit it. I get excited about trends! The beauty. The fun. The creativity. But trends can be dangerous for the midlife and beyond woman. We might participate thinking it makes us look stylish, when there are times it just looks wrong. Also, trends can sometimes age us rather than offer the touch of youth we might desire. So make sure to throw up a caution flag before diving in. You will not see me in a hot pink David Bowie message tee this year, though I have already seen some women in them. Message t-shirts are back in huge volumes and can be fun for casual wear or under a jacket with jeans. I suggest you approach with caution. Make sure your message is communicated with the choices you make and consider what it is you want your clothing to say about you.


Unfortunately, there have been times in my life when my accessories entered in the room before me. Now I make sure I ask the right questions in front of the mirror in the morning. I take designer advice and remove one thing before leaving the house. As I grow I live with the less is more mindset.


Girls will be girls. No matter our age, no matter our lifestyle, we are too quick to compare ourselves with those around us. I am no different. However, I have learned that when I begin to compare myself is when I get unhappy with myself. As I do this less and less, I have boldly discovered my own style and my own joy. I have accepted me with all my unique challenges for beauty and style. I also save money when I don’t compare! For example, those heels may look fabulous on others and make me long for them, but my feet can no longer wear them. It is better for me to save the money on things I won’t be able to wear and enjoy.


Similarly to when I see a new trend, I get excited about a new design and completely ignore how it might be unflattering on this curvy figure. If I do not spend time before the mirror really giving it a look all over, then I might not notice that it makes me look heavier or is too tight in some areas – both things that make me uncomfortable. I love the oversized tunics which have been around for a couple of years, but I must be very careful to get sizing correct. With these garments, I have even gone down two sizes for a more flattering fit. Find things that look right on you and you feel amazing in.


I not only represent myself in the world, I represent my business brand for the blog. I represent the magazines where I work. There are days I get tired and do not take the time to look my best when I go out. Honestly? I always regret it. I always run into someone I know or someone I need to know. It doesn’t take that much time to put on a little makeup and select a nice casual look. It takes the same amount of time to put on a t-shirt and yoga pants.

What are your fashion and beauty mistakes? Care to share in order to help someone else? Have a wonderful week, everyone. And thanks so much for being here.

Pamela Lutrell

Pamela Lutrell began her blog, over50feeling40, July 2010 with a desire to encourage women over 50 to walk in strength, confidence and joy. Of course, head turning style makes each day fun!

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Antionette Blake

Friday 12th of August 2016

Great tips Pam, but I love lots of bangles and usually put more on that take off - lol


Tuesday 9th of August 2016

Thanks for the tip!!


Tuesday 9th of August 2016

These are all great thoughts Pam, really excellent! And how true that we learn as we go. I think to proceed with extreme caution with trends is great advice because it is so true, they can really age us or make us look like we're trying too hard. The more I pay attention to this, the more I can spot something that, while looking great in the magazine or catalog, is going to be disaster on my and make me look super frumpy! I used to wear too many accessories, and I think it was Coco Chanel who said to remove one piece before leaving the house - excellent advice unless you are only wearing one piece to begin with, of course! I have completely reversed that fashion choice and go with much less and feel better as a result. Striving for balance in an outfit is key, with no one thing being overpowering. Speaking for myself, that is! At the same time we don't want to be boring and predictable. It's a fine line we walk as we get older, but worth the time invested to be sure of the message we're sending, as you say. Just an excellent post!

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