I understand there are many of us who want to have fun with style and fashion. We admire what we see on other stylish women. We drool over runway shows this time of year with the latest fashion from designers. We wonder about fashion statements, thinking, “Why can’t I have that same courage?” Even worse, some of us will beat ourselves up for it. I could never pull that off. I’m too large. I’m too old. We use self-deprecating comments to justify not giving some modern options a try.
I learned to stop with those comments and look at these decisions with maturity and intelligence and simply ask:
“Is this right for me?”
“Do these choices send the messages I desire to send with my style?”
“Do they fit my current lifestyle?”
“Fashion is about something that comes from within you.” – Ralph Lauren .
I also learned to start small. Pick small ways to step out of my comfort zone and try something new in either the fashion or beauty areas. If I feel self-conscious (in whatever fashion statements I might be trying) the second time I do it, then perhaps it is not for me. But, I have learned not to beat myself up if it doesn’t work. It is not a fault with me. The garment or trend just doesn’t fit with what I want to say about me. When the step of courage does work, it often results in a confident, youthful feeling. As I have said so many times, confidence is powerful and attractive. I do whatever I can to hold on to it and keep my best accessory, a smile, on my face.
Five Fashion Statements I’m Planning On Trying This Fall
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- Leopard Pants: I bought my first pair recently. I really didn’t think I would do it. But when I stood in front of the mirror I liked what I saw. Remember it is all about fit. The print or fabric selection is always secondary to the fit.
- Leather Skirts and Pants: There are so many selections of excellent faux leather, vegan leather, and real leather on the market you should be able to recreate this look whatever your material preference. Last year I fell in love with my faux leather pants and really could have worn them every day. This year I have selected a leather pencil skirt to add to my wardrobe. This is an easy, edgy way to say “current.”
- Velvet: Velvet what? Anything velvet is back in this year. There are velvet jackets, blazers, dresses, skirts, shoes, boots, purses. You can look in-style with a small or larger piece. And I’ll bet many of you already have some velvet in your closet!
- Gold Metallic Jackets: I admit this one takes the most courage and is very rock n’ roll. However, I have seen well-made gold metallic jackets worn with black denim on midlife women which look fabulous. I don’t know if I have the courage to do it, but I am going to at least try one on and consider it for a fun weekend outfit.
- Navy Blue Nails: I am going to do this first on my toes and see what I think about the idea for my nails. I love to wear fall nail colors like brown, slate gray, and deep purple. So this year I might join in with the navy blue. It will be part of my pedicure soon and I’ll let you know how it turns out.
It doesn’t require any courage to go to a dressing room and try on something you normally would not wear. A dressing room is not a commitment to step out in public, but just a baby step forward to see how something might look. Ankle pants and leather leggings are in my closet because I tried them on first, before I completely discounted them. You just might be surprised! Living a tad outside your comfort zone can make fashion fun. I highly recommend it for those who keep your clothing safe and always the same.
Have a wonderful week, everyone. Thank you for being here.
Thursday 25th of August 2016
I am 60 and I am glad that you have taken on these fashion challenges. I have to admit that my problem is a bit different. I tend to be ahead of fashion trends. For example I bought a gold metallic jacket 3 years ago. Felt it was cool and chic, however after wearing it twice and feeling awkward (not because I didn't like it ) I put it in the back of the closet and just pulled it out again. The same is true of the leopard pants I own, great fit, but no one else was wearing them so I put them away. Perhaps I'm not as confident as I once thought, I wore leggings and a tunic to a card party maybe 6 years ago, again I felt awkward, lots of comments mostly positive, put them away for several years, now everyone has leggings. Maybe I don't like being the center of so much conversation? But I do like purchasing things that are a bit different!
Thursday 25th of August 2016
Diana - that's awesome, though. Good for you! You're a trendsetter. :)
Honestly, I think if you stick with what you're comfortable in you can't go wrong, and if you happen to be in a different mindset than anyone else? Go for it anyway. People will catch up to you.