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The F*#k It List

A couple of weeks ago Thom and I had lunch with a long time friend I’ll call Bob.  After a great meal our conversation turned to health and successful aging as it sometimes does for people in mid-life.  We all agreed that we were extremely fortunate to live in an area where we can observe people well into their 90’s who are vibrant, active and younger in mind and heart than many people half their age.

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Next we talked about the importance of living each day as a gift, never taking a moment for granted, and fulfilling our bucket list while we were all healthy and financially able.   That’s when Bob joked that he recently had dinner with a woman in her late 80’s who had a different take on the idea.  She told him very emphatically that she was done with the idea of a bucket list—at her age she was working on her F*^t It list! And while we all laughed at the spunk of Bob’s friend, that declaration got me thinking.

Sure it’s healthy to have a bucket list containing all the goals and dreams we hope to accomplish during the remainder of our lives But maybe we also need to have a F*^k It list as well. After all, at a certain age we should be both willing and able to let go of anything that drags us down and holds us back from living a happy and content life.  So after spending a bit of time thinking about it—here are a few things I’m putting on my F*^k It list that perhaps might convince some of the rest of you to make such a list as well.

The very first thing on my F*^k It list is caring what others think about me.  Of course I’ve written about this before so it isn’t a surprise to any of my readers—but I’ve been caring about this for far too long and it’s time to just say “F*^k It!”  Of course, even as I write this I’m aware that I don’t normally use four-letter-words in my blog so writing this post with f*^k in the title (and in the text!) is quite a step for me.  But again, it’s all because I worry too much about whether you, my friends and my readers will like it.   Most of the time I find plenty of other words that work equally as well or better.  But let’s face it–sometimes f*^k is just the right word, and right now I’m giving myself permission to use it when it seems to fit the circumstance.

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Cathy Chester

Friday 8th of November 2013

You are right on the money with this one. I am a work in progress (who isn't?) and I work hard on focusing on my personal goals and caring less what others think of me. It's called authenticity, and I'm trying be as authentic as I can.

Wonderful post!


Kathy @ SMART Living

Friday 8th of November 2013

Hi Cathy! Thank you so much for making a comment and letting me know I'm not alone in some of the things I need to let go of! As you say, we're all works in progress--but if I could gradually reduce each and every one of the five things in this post that I'm saying "F*&K It!" to...then I know I've made progress. Authenticity is definitely the way to go! ~Kathy

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Thursday 7th of November 2013

“The F*#k It List - Midlife Boulevard” was in fact truly enjoyable and helpful! Within modern society that’s really hard to carry out. Regards, Willie


Thursday 7th of November 2013

Absolutely adore this idea of the F#ck It List! Let's take this idea nationwide! Thanks for making me smile today.

Kathy @ SMART Living

Thursday 7th of November 2013

Hi Melanie! You are so welcome! I agree...maybe they should make a movie of this LIST instead of the bucket right? And instead of a couple of old guys and the lead characters there could be a bunch of us midlife women from Midlife Boulevard! Anyone know anyone we can pitch the idea to????

Anyway, I'm glad you liked it and that it made you smile. Thanks for the comment. ~Kathy

Shaun Hoobler

Thursday 7th of November 2013

F*^k It list LOL. But that's a great idea for a list. Helps with the carpe diem thing. I'm so creating my own.

Kathy @ SMART Living

Thursday 7th of November 2013

Hi Shaun! And yes....a F*&K It list definitely helps me to remember the carpe diem thing and keeps me focused on those things in life that I want to experience rather than doing anything I think I HAVE to do! Thanks for your comment! ~Kathy

Vidya Sury

Wednesday 6th of November 2013

The day I turned 50, I made a F*&K it list! My first thing on the list was what others think of me is none of my business too. It is so liberating to make this list! Thanks Kathy! Great read. So good to be here!

Kathy @ SMART Living

Thursday 7th of November 2013

Hi Vidya! Good for you for making your F*&K It list at such a young age :-) Mine took me a bit longer and the truth be told I'm still working on some of the BIGGER issues that are on my list. BUT--the good news is that just remembering that my list exists is so very helpful to me because it reminds me that the only one carrying around those out-dated and unhelpful issues is ME! Glad it helped you too and yes! It is exciting to be part of something new and wonderful! ~Kathy

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