Jolene Ewert shares her don’ts for dressing well at midlife – and why you shouldn’t wear your 4 year old’s clothes. Read more from Jolene on her blog, All Jolene.
People are always telling us to “dress our age”. But then, I read in the entertainment headlines that celebrity moms are borrowing their toddler aged daughters’ clothes. I couldn’t do this for two reasons. First of all, I would never fit into those tiny clothes in a million years. Secondly, if I tried such a stunt, the neighbors would snicker and probably try to have me committed. But, what is the appropriate look for a midlife woman? What clothes and cosmetics are appealing? How can I feel good about my look? Here is a quick list of what you SHOULD NOT do.
- Don’t Dress Too Young
Embrace your age, you are not old! You possess grace and style from years of experience and personal growth. Roll with it! Think classy and elegant, ditch those miniskirts. This doesn’t mean it is time for the Hillary Clinton pantsuit. Try some new styles and new colors! Don’t worry about the trends, start your own.
- Don’t Neglect Your Skin
Sure, we’re getting older and our skin can give us away with those bags and wrinkles. Most importantly, take care of your skin! Start a regimen of cleansing and moisturizing. Incorporate an eye cream or a wrinkle reducer into your skincare routine if desired. Never go to bed without washing your makeup off. And, don’t forget the sunscreen in your morning preparations.
- Don’t Wear the Wrong Makeup
It can be tempting to want to hide our imperfections by overcompensating with concealer and foundation. This is not the way to go! Your makeup will look heavy and caked on. Your best look will be achieved by keeping your foundation, eye shadow, blush and mascara light. Avoid dark colors and strive for a natural look. Women tend to look their best when you can’t tell they are wearing makeup at all.
- Don’t Forget To Update Your Hairdo
There is much debate questioning if a woman over 40 should be sporting long hair. What isn’t up for debate is the fact that you shouldn’t have the same hairdo you did 30 years ago. No aqua-net head and find a style that is flattering for you NOW. If you decide to color your hair, great. If you decide to let it stay gray, great. But, don’t do half and half. Grown out hair will add years to your look.
- Don’t Forget the Inner You
It’s true what they say, “beauty is only skin deep”. Don’t forget to improve on the inner person you want to be. Learn a new skill, conquer a fear, forgive more, donate your time, help a neighbor, and reflect on your thoughts. When you like yourself, other people will like you too and find you attractive.
The bottom line is, be comfortable. You don’t want to be picking underwear out of your butt all day. And, be you! If you are confident and feel good about whom you are that will show to the rest of the world.
Jolene is the author of a daily humorous blog that laughs at everyday life. You can follow her blog at www.alljolene.com