“It had become a daily reminder of all of my imperfections,” says McCarthy. “For the first time in my life it had stopped bringing me joy.”
Comedian and now fashion designer, Melissa McCarthy, made this statement in the current issue of People Magazine in reference to getting dressed every morning. I know there are thousands of midlife women who understand the emotions behind it, because I also was one of them. In my twenties and early thirties, I loved clothes. But, life wore at me and criticisms of family members became internalized.
Looking in the mirror was just a reminder that I was tired, overweight, and not accepted by others. It is easy to focus on the imperfections and not the possibilities. But, just like McCarthy, I was ready for the possibilities and to take my joy back!
“I’ve been every size under the rainbow, and my sense of style never left me, but my options did,” says McCarthy. “I created a fashion line that is for all sizes.”
I wish her line had been around twelve years ago when I needed options. But, the important lesson is there are now more fashions to choose from and you really must find them and not allow depression to take over. McCarthy is even working with prominent retailers to have her clothes displayed on first floors and not hidden as women’s sizes so often are. If you find yourself feeling hidden, here is how to start:
- Get mad…choose today to take your joy back and turn things around. The choice is the critical first step.
- Stop immediately focusing on the negative…the weight around the middle, the wrinkles, and the sagging eyelids, whatever it is. Turn that focus into possibilities.
- Stop comparisons now! You are your own unique, beautiful you! You may not be the skinny woman at the gym, or the cool fashion blogger, or Diane Keaton! But, you are something special and it is time to own it.
- Find a clothing line with options which make you feel fabulous and not frumpy. It may be a combination of places like it is for me. I hope to try some of McCarthy’s pieces…they look fun. There are ways to dress your body to look amazing no matter what size or age you are. Embrace those curves, ladies!
- Make note of what works and what doesn’t work. It is about the way clothing is constructed…not about your body. Not all women’s sizes are universal. Try clothes on in a dressing room with a three way mirror. Don’t allow clothes to tell you how to feel about yourself. Look for confidence in what you wear…it does not matter what the label says. How does a garment make you look and feel.
Approach this whole process as fun and empowering…because it is. Clothing is just another weapon to fight the battle of low self- esteem and win a prize of confidence and joy. Please do not allow the perceived imperfections to shut you down. We can live life with a Melissa McCarthy smile!
You can find her line here on HSN (though I warn you, it sold out quickly) and soon in major retail outlets) Did that first quote resonate with anyone else?
Thanks for stopping by the Joy Boutique! Have a great week, everyone!
Kay Lynn says
She has some cute things in her collection. Thanks for letting us know about it. Melissa’s approach to solve the problem of getting dressed is inspiring.
Theresa Wiza says
I love Melissa McCarthy and I think she’s beautiful. It’s such a shame that society places so much emphasis on weight, because she is gorgeous. She’s also very creative, not only with her acting, but also with her clothing line.
Karena says
Melissa is smart, bright and beautiful! Weight is so over-emphasized in our country it is a health crisis though!! We are all aware that first impressions are important. So Melissa had ma her line so that women of any size can dress beautifully!
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Karen says
Her comment about losing options is a valid point. I work very hard at being at the right weight, and to be honest, it gets me down to put on a few pounds. So if I am being honest, I have not arrived at the place where I could embrace a larger size. It’s that whole self-esteem issue. Good for her for creating a line for all sizes. I agree we should make the most of our assets, and we all have them no matter what size. I have an ongoing struggle with self esteem, so it’s just easier for me to put in the hard work to not deviate from where I am size-wise. Not saying it is healthy thinking by any means!
Adela says
My five sisters and I obsessed so much about our size and what we looked like that one husband threatened to line us up, take pictures of us from the waist down, back view and see if we could pick out who was who.
Our shape is so much less important than…… so many things, I better things to do than to list them. Thanks for the post, and the reminder, roomie.
Barbara Torris says
The list is perfect. Be healthy first of all and rest will follow. Loved this article.
Lana says
I love her. If you’re healthy and happy, that’s all that matters!
Karen says
I’d add two more things to the list. Try clothing on at home before taking the tags off. The lighting in department stores is usually so bad, nothing looks good. Make sure you have proper undergarments on and the right height shoes for the outfit. You can always buy two pair of jeans and take one back. The other suggestion is: find a style of jeans, top, shoes, whatever that really makes you feel and look great. Then buy more if you can afford it. Jeans manufacturers frequently make one style that makes me look fine and another that makes me look like a sausage. Cut is extremely important and clothing manufacturers change styles seasonally. You probably won’t find the “perfect” fitting jean later so grab it now!
MarcyB says
These are all great points, no matter what size you are. I once weighed 100 lbs more than I do now (gastric bypass saved my life) but I still am a short, 60+ y.o. woman who will never look like a tall, slender model, and that’s okay with me. I wear clothes that make me feel happy and I’m more confident than I was in my 30’s. I do have a bone to pick with Melissa McCarthy’s clothing line, though – while I would have liked to buy some of the items listed on HSN, they really aren’t designed for “every body” – they are designed for bodies that are much taller and much larger than mine. That’s fine, but why advertise that the clothes will fit everyone when they won’t?